Your choices 你的选择: There isn't any one answer to any of the problems above. There are choices though: you can either seek out an answer, something that addresses why you are hurting your relationship, or you can resign yourself to the failure of your relationship (and maybe the next one, and the next one, and...). Failure doesn't always mean you break up - many people aren't that lucky. But people can live quite unhappily in failed relationships for years and even decades because they're afraid they won't find anything better, or worse, they're afraid they deserve it. Don't you be one of them - if you suffer from any of these problems, figure out how to fix it, whether that means therapy, a solo mountain retreat, or just talking to your partner and committing yourselves to change. 上述问题都没有一个唯一确定的答案,但是你有不同选择:你可以尝试去给自己找一个答案,明白你为什么在伤害你俩的感情,你也可以选择退出这段失败的感情(也许还包括下一段,再下一段......)。失败的感情不一定意味着分手--很多人没有那么幸运。很多人可以一直在失败的感情中不愉快的生活很多年,甚至一辈子。因为他们害怕自己找不到更好的,更糟糕的是一些人认为这是自己应得的。如果你也是如此,不要跟他们一样,从问题中吸取教训,尝试去真正解决问题,例如寻求心理治疗,独自去远足一下,或者直接跟伴侣商量,确确实实的做一些改变......